By Neelima Mohol
Contributing Author for Spark Igniting Minds
Adoption is considered a good cause. In recent times, most of them are going in for adoption, who have no kids and those kids who have lost both the parents due to accident or some kind of illness. There are parents who are adopting a sibling for their own child. There is no differentiation between girl or boy! Both are treated equally!
Adoption should be mutual. Acceptance should be from both the parents as well as the adopted child. Since adoption in itself is a big decision, it should take place when there is readiness to adopt and adapt. Adoption is a process where there is mutual acceptance not only with both the parents but with the entire family.
Adoption and adaptation goes hand in hand. The adopted child may take time to adjust himself/herself with the parents and other family members. It also depends on the age group of the adopted child. Here environmental conditions and other factors, like accepting the child by the entire family plays a vital role.
Adoption takes place through various organizations like adoption center, foster care etc. But developing the bond takes time. Many times it happens that adopted children are sent back to the respective centers, and the reasons are as follows:
Acceptance and adjustment issues from both the parties
Past experience and the way of treatment towards the child from the previous family.
Attitude while adopting the child:
Child should be adopted with love and care. Ready to take complete responsibility of the child.
Child's responsibility should be from both the parents.
Be clear with the "WHY" Before going ahead with adoption.
Willingness, readiness to the decision of adoption without any societal or family pressure will have a long lasting impact on the relationship between the parents and the child.
Taking care of the child is like taking care of the new "BUD". Grooming, nurturing and moulding them, will change both parents as well as the child's life.
About the Author
Neelima Mohol is a Counselor and Psychotherapist with 13 years of experience.
She deals with people from all age groups for their holistic wellness and helps them in their healing!
She is an avid reader and loves writing!