By Manju Chandra
Contributory Author for Spark Igniting Minds
"I don’t care!"
These words come like a blow when we hear it from our loved and trusted ones. Sometimes explicitly and at times implicitly.
This one sentence robs the listener of trust, stability, mental peace, and a sense of security that any relationship encompasses. When people use this weapon of choice and aim it at somebody, it not only injures the mind, it scars the soul. Sometimes the loss is beyond recovery leading to life-threatening diseases. This emotional hurt caused takes a lifetime of recovery and sometimes damage done is beyond recovery. The speaker uses this weapon carelessly and liberally without even realising the damage that this potent weapon of choice is causing.
When a building tumbles, we can see the rubble's, walk over it and try to put the pieces together, but when a person breaks down there is no sound. Unwarranted feelings of self-doubt, rejection, uncertainty, and resentment crop up creating a whirlpool in which the poor soul feels trapped. Words hurt more than the physical punch.
Words have enormous energy and power. They create thoughts and those thoughts shape our actions. They create the reality or illusion that surrounds us. Healing words make and shape our lives, strengthen the bond, raise our self-esteem, and provide a constant drive and motivation to move forward in any relationship.
The words “I don’t care”, sting like an arrow and poison the heart and mind of the listener. We should all avoid using this word even if we mean it.
There are times when just a kind word will turn the situation around. But our ego and lack of consideration for others prevent us from taking a step back and thinking of the impact this weapon will have.
Relationships are held together by a glue called Love. People who are in a committed relationship or married prefer to live together and spend as much time as possible with each other. This creates the stability in the relationship and fulfils the attention need and creates an emotional connection which in turn creates a home where everyone feels loved and members of such families outstretch their boundaries to reach their highest potential. Partners and children of people who mostly travel for work or spend most of their time on work, are very engrossed in other activities and mostly sacrifice the family time in order to achieve personal goals often perceive it as deliberate rejection and feel abandoned.
We all acknowledge that children have a need for attention, if they can’t have it positively, they create scenes as they understand negative attention is better than no attention at all.
But as we grow into adults, does this need change? No, it doesn’t. We still crave for love, warmth, kindness, and a few kind words.
As George Bernard Shaw stated, “The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.” ("https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/relationships")
Let’s all pay close attention to what is important in our lives and ponder over what we have been doing and take corrective actions before it is too late.
About the Author
Manju Chandra is a content strategist, a technical art enthusiast, and a passionate writer with a vision to collaborate and promote art and design enthusiasts worldwide. She has co-authored three books and has gifted her art piece to Dr. Kiran Bedi as well.