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Welcome to the journey of success

Updated: Dec 28, 2019

By Nandini Rao

Contributing Author for Spark Igniting Minds

What drives every action of a human being is the intention of achieving success as the outcome of that action. Hence, a question like what success means is absurd. There is not one single definition of success that could hold good for all.


The decisive factor of how successful we perceive ourselves is how we relate to success!

From the moment of our birth, success is important to us. A student strives for good grades to achieve success in his/her exams; a father struggles at work to be able to give his children a good start in life. The mother struggles at work and at home to draw a work-home balance to enable instill the right values in her children.

Why is it that the parents struggle while the student strives to succeed in their respective goals?

Each one of us relates to success differently. This is because we are molded by what our growing environment defines as success. The innate need in each of us to be successful gets us to strive and work for what we identify as ‘being successful’. We pour our passion, work hard, focus completely, push ourselves, come up with new ideas, do improvisations, try to be of service to and persist relentlessly into achieving the elusive. Yet, many times we remain unfulfilled at the end of achieving that which we have defined as success.

A student, in formative years, is like a sponge, eager to absorb knowledge and perform well at school. A student is secure in the comfort which education will enable him/her with knowledge, which in turn, would open up a plethora of opportunities for him/her in the future. He is not yet exposed to the expectations the society has from him, the world has from him. Hence, the struggle has not crept into his being. And he constantly strives to give his all to achieve success.

The parents perceive success for their child, as being available for getting a better start in adult life than they have had. Can we see here that the parents do not themselves, perceive their lives as successful, hence the struggle?

Where does that perception of success come from?

The perception of the parents’ own success in life comes from the environment they have grown up in. Possibly, where the definition of success includes struggle in it. What the environment perceived as success, when not available for the parents becomes their definition of the success they will make available for their children. And the vicious circle goes on and on.

Another way of looking at success would be when the parents accept their weaknesses and lacunae in life and work towards strengthening the weak areas, hence moving constantly towards success. Such parents would be confident and successful parents of the child. When the child looks up to his parents, whose self-esteem has not taken a battering, he will produce greater results and will relate to success as a milestone in the journey of life, not a destination to reach, after which all good things in life become available.

Somewhere along the way, during our growing years, we learn to quantify success. Thus, complicating it further. We forget that success is qualitative and relative, not quantitative and absolute. We look at success as a destination, not a journey.

Not being able to achieve what one has set out for is not a failure. Failure is not the opposite of success. It is a stepping stone in the journey, without which the value of success would not be as sweet. It is as much imperative to fail several times as it is to achieve success by persistence. Not giving up on the journey, not losing focus, not being disempowered, believing in oneself and moving on with the conviction and courage, irrespective of the roadblocks is what defines one’s success, not reaching the goalpost without confronting failures.

We are truly the authors of our own ambitions. We thrive not when we have done it all, but when we have more to do.

For most of us, we like to experience a world, where everything is normal and reassuring and regular, but failure catapults you abruptly over there, into the blinding darkness of disappointment, whereas success catapults you here, just as far into an equally blinding glare of fame, recognition and praise. One of these fates is objectively seen by the world as bad and the other one is objectively seen by the world as good, your subconscious is completely incapable of discerning between bad and good. The only thing it is capable of feeling is the absolute value of this exact emotional equation, the exact distance that you have been flung from yourself.


About Nandini Rao

Ms.Nandini Rao

Nandini Rao is a Transformation Coach with in-depth exposure to several business functions.

An internationally certified coach, she is committed to coaching people to raise the quality of their lives, achieve their goals.

Her writings reflect the depth of her understanding of life and people. Her ability to relate to people instantly makes her an excellent coach, mentor, and builder of lasting and meaningful relationships.

Featured Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay


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