By Ritu Garg
Contributing Author for Spark Igniting Minds
I held it gently in my hand and saw the way the cookie crumbled. The cake crumbled too before it could be cut into fine and firm slices. That was the last thing I wanted.
I was beginning to get upset. Just then I turned back. That’s when I noticed “Amor Fati” engraved on one of the magnets on my refrigerator. I remembered my friend telling me what it meant, even before I could ask her. When she gifted this beautiful memento to me, she said “Love your fate! It implies there is immense power in loving your fate.”
I see this magnet every day as it is right near the handle of the door of my refrigerator, but my mind would subconsciously apply this filter that this message was meant to be applied while dealing with some so-called “very important”, “earth-shattering situation” in one ’s life.
And now amidst this mess, I wondered,
“Do we really need to think that profound to deal with such a mundane mess?” As soon as it came, another counter thought rose which intercepted the first one.
“Yes, indeed!” said a little voice in my head. I felt an epiphany.
And for mundane and regular situations, there is no need to think that spiritually. We tend to have a knee-jerk and reflexive reaction to situations and then we move on. But we do internalize the negativity in the process.
Though I shrugged the cake-disaster and went on to do another task at hand, yet I was irritable. I hadn’t actually accepted it.
Then I realized that in the school of life, daily lessons are important. After all, our internal mechanism to deal with life develops through these things.
So I said to myself, “No regrets! The moment I stopped lamenting, I started creating.”
I took some Nutella, the flour becomes dough again. This time it molds itself to a new form and a wonderful cake pops.
The concept of Amor Fati does not mean resigning to fate. On the contrary, it is about turning around the situation by meeting the change with love and optimism. Change the resistance into acceptance.
Some aspects of Amor Fati in our lives:
If it sounds evil, encounter it, embrace it, enrich via it. – Action, acceptance and alternative thinking and improvisation.
We improvise a play in the theatre. Definitely it does not mean that we’re resisting it. If we think so, we stop our expansion through challenges.
If you stumble make it a part of your dance.
Pivoting - Pivoting is changing one’s strategy according to the circumstances,
Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions.
Failure is not fatal. It is vital so don’t polarise failure as the other spectrum of success. Rather look at failure as the future of success.
Mistakes can turn into miracles.
Shifting the focus from knowing to growing.
About Ritu Garg
Ritu Garg, a wordsmith. She collects words like a philatelist would collect stamps or a numismatic would collect coins. Words give her power, She shares a relationship with them.
Words make her thoughts tactile, tangible and transferrable.
She is a management graduate in finance. She has a strong passion for languages, history, social institutions, food, fashion, parenting and health and now following writing and translation as her profession.