By Sparkian Neelima Mohol
Contributory Author For Spark Igniting Minds
It's a beautiful Sunday morning!!! Routine is on. In the matrimonial column...Bride wanted for...Description of the groom, his education, family, work profile, salary, expectations!! At the end of every proposal, there was a common expectation... “Fair girl”, who should be earning good, also taking care of the family and doing house hold chores.
What does the family really want or expect from the girl? Is she a string doll, who will always act as per the world want her to be? Doesn’t she have any rights to take decision for herself? Why is a girl’s life decisions taken by others?
Apart from that only she has to adjust. Why?? My question to all out there is why should only girls adjust, sacrifice or compromise in every aspect of life?? Marriage is not just about 2 individuals tying knot and others enjoying the function. It is connecting of 2 families. Still there is looking down at bride’s family, more demand and expectations from the bride’s family! When the requirement is of working and earning girl, she is forced to contribute her income with the new family and she helping her parents with her earned income is disliked by the in-laws and she is being tortured for the same.
And why always the requirement of a "FAIR GIRL" is given more importance? Are dark or semi fair girls bad? Why is a bride chosen only by her skin color and her good nature is completely ignored? What about her plus points, her qualities and capabilities?
Many a times girl need to create her own identity by becoming financially strong. This is shocking and surprising that even in today's 21st century, people are still so orthodox minded. There are many things, which the bride and her family have to face. Let’s say that if after marriage the girl and the boy are not getting along, and they decide to separate with mutual consent, still at some places, girls are not accepted by her family due to the mindset, societal pressure, family pressure etc. Why only girls suffer and go through the trauma involved in a divorce?
I want everyone to think about this. Specially girls, most important message is love yourself as you are and accept yourself with all your flaws and weaknesses and don't fall for people who want you to change for them. Instead, change for yourself. Convert your flaws into your strength... No one is perfect... So don't try to be one and ruin your life, because life is beautiful and precious. Please value it. Thank you.
About the Author
Neelima Mohol is a Counselor and Psychotherapist with 13 years of experience.
She deals with people from all age groups for their holistic wellness and helps them in their healing!
She is an avid reader and loves writing!